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Post by Pam Browder on Apr 2, 2013 13:16:34 GMT -5
I was with him at his home when he passed on Feb. 22 this year. Everyone says it will get easier, but it seems to be getting harder. See, for 17yrs I worked with my dad, I spent more time with him than anyone else in the family. We were the floor installers to call, everyone knew us and our work. Since he passed I dropped out of the on-line college I was going to, I'm doing the best I can to run the jobs. I don't know, just seems like every job I do makes me sadder. I been training for Lake Charles in May, but I'm losing interest in everything. I don't have any friends to talk to, and my husband don't seem to care. Any suggestions?  |
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Post by Seth Barnett on Apr 2, 2013 14:42:31 GMT -5
I understand where your at Pam. Maybe think about how your father would feel about you moping around? I'm sure he was a hard working man by the sounds of it. Make him proud! Go kick some ass at whatever you decide to do. I like to take my anger out at the table or in the gym. Kill the weights! Give it a year or two and your thoughts will turn from sad ones in to fond memories. Keep your head up and make him proud!
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Post by Pam Browder on Apr 2, 2013 16:27:37 GMT -5
Thank you for your reply, I guess it's hard cause I am reminded of him everyday because I am still putting in floors and that is what he wanted me to do. Hope to see you in LA, where I will do my best to kick some ass!!
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Post by Jeremy Fraley on Apr 2, 2013 21:47:37 GMT -5
I can tell you from my experience with my fathers death, i was only 10. I was his baseball superstar. Drilling me with training videos, and around the clock practices, i meant so much to him. Every little team i tried out for fought over a select few guys, usually i was first pick. Me and my dad spent alot of time together. It took me about 10yrs to get used to speaking of him after he passed, with a smile instead of in tears. That's really why i got into this sport. See my dad used to arm wrestle, not professionally but within our county. Everyone who knew him knew that he was the man to beat. He want a big guy, just naturally strong. my point to this long paragraph is that i arm wrestle for my dad. i feel a connection with him spiritually when i compete. I always feel his presence. Which makes me feel better about him being gone.
Everyone takes grieving differently, and I'm sure you know this. Make the best of what you have, and what he loved doing. Even though you can't physically see him, you'll know he's the watching. I like to tend to believe that anyways. I hope this helps. Don't give up though, i almost did and I'm thankful i didn't! God Bless!!!
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Post by Pam Browder on Apr 3, 2013 13:45:39 GMT -5
You know, just ya'll responding to my post makes me feel better because I have no friends(no time). I feel like I have friends now in the arm wrestling world. Thank you for your thoughts, I feel better and I know in time it will get even better.
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Post by Glenn Brooks on Apr 3, 2013 14:46:29 GMT -5
Hey girl, I know it's rough, mine died 5 days after he had come to see me for my birthday
with an aneurysm. Just think of how he would want you to carry on with out him. I'm sure
he would want you to get up any take care of business. Give me a shout if you need anything. And sorry for your loss.
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Post by Pam Browder on Apr 3, 2013 15:23:31 GMT -5
Thanks Glenn, he is better off now. He was sick for a year-his heart was failing, only had 15% blood flow from blocked arteries. It was hard to work with him everyday and watch him get weaker and weaker. He worked till the Friday before he died the next Friday. He taught me to be honest and hard working, that's what I'm going to do. Thanks for being so supportive everyone, it means a lot to me.
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Post by Chuck Barney on Apr 3, 2013 17:16:52 GMT -5
Girl get your head up.... thats what he is saying right now i am sure of it... i havent had to experience what your going through... but i am a father and if anything happened to me the only thing i would care about is hoping my boyz stay happy. I am sure your dad is the same way... he wants you to enjoy the short time we have here and smile. Just know he is still looking down on you. Time will help but till then take it out on the weights.
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Post by Chuck Barney on Apr 3, 2013 17:17:35 GMT -5
Girl get your head up.... thats what he is saying right now i am sure of it... i havent had to experience what your going through... but i am a father and if anything happened to me the only thing i would care about is hoping my boyz stay happy. I am sure your dad is the same way... he wants you to enjoy the short time we have here and smile. Just know he is still looking down on you. Time will help but till then take it out on the weights.
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Post by Pam Browder on Apr 3, 2013 18:23:22 GMT -5
Ya'll are right. He wanted me to be happy, he loved me talking about tournaments, he knew how much I loved to compete. I have said that I don't have any friends to talk to about this with-but ya'll have proved me wrong. Thanks Chuck, maybe I'll see you in LA 5-4-13.
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